To many people, a divorce seems like a long process with tons of conflict and stress. However, it does not have to be that way. If both partners are willing to be civil with one another and look at the big picture, they may be able to have a more peaceful divorce. If you and your spouse plan to get divorced, you can take steps to make proceedings less stressful.

Ways to Minimize Conflict in Your Divorce

A divorce can be one of the most difficult events of your life. You and your spouse may feel anger and resentment towards each other. Despite all that, it may be possible to reduce conflict during the process.

• Consider mediation. Fighting in divorce court for months can definitely cause stress and heartache. To avoid this, think about working with a trained mediator. This professional can help you and your spouse come to a favorable agreement faster and with less conflict. A family law mediator does not replace an attorney, but mediation may help spouses find common ground and resolve divorce disputes. 

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 Prenuptial agreements are legal contracts some couples enter into before getting married. These contracts set forth the division of assets in the event of a divorce and are typically recommended for couples with wealth disparities and those who have been married before. If you are considering creating a prenuptial agreement, it is important to consult an Illinois family lawyer promptly.

Misconceptions About Prenuptial Agreements 

Prenuptial agreements have a bad reputation due to misinformation and misunderstandings. However, prenuptial agreements can provide multiple benefits for both parties. Here are a few common misconceptions about these agreements.

• If you sign a prenuptial agreement, you plan to divorce. Some couples are reluctant to enter into a prenuptial agreement because the document is associated with divorce. However, just because you sign this agreement does not mean you and your partner will get divorced in the future. It simply offers protection for both parties if a divorce does occur.

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If you and your spouse have decided to get divorced, it may be difficult for the two of you to agree on divorce issues. Instead of relying on a judge to make important decisions in your divorce, such as child custody and property division, consider going through mediation. The process can be beneficial for many divorcing couples willing to discuss the unresolved issues and work toward a solution cooperatively. 

How Divorce Mediation in Illinois Works

Mediation is intended to help couples reach reasonable agreements about various issues in their divorce, such as spousal maintenance, child support, and allocation of parental responsibilities. During each mediation session, you and your spouse will sit down with a trained mediator, who will facilitate a civil and productive discussion about the unresolved aspects of your divorce.

Although a mediator must have extensive knowledge in divorce and family law, he or she cannot provide you or your spouse with legal advice unless he or she is also a lawyer. A mediator can, however, help you identify common ground, ask you and your spouse to clarify your points, and help you brainstorm possible resolutions.

A divorce can be one of the most difficult and emotionally draining times of your life. It is also no secret that divorces can take a long time to finalize. If your spouse was the primary breadwinner in your marriage, you may wonder how you will financially support yourself and children in the meantime. After all, the mortgage, utility bills, childcare costs, and other bills still have to be paid. Luckily, you can file for temporary relief orders that can provide the financial support you need before the divorce is finalized and the final orders are entered.

Requesting Temporary Spousal Support

Before your divorce is finalized, you may request temporary spousal support from your spouse. You will be required to file a petition with the court and provide an affidavit that explains why you need the temporary relief. The affidavit has to contain bank statements, tax returns, and other financial documents that support your statements. A judge may consider several factors when deciding whether or not to award temporary maintenance, such as you and your spouse’s annual earnings, the standard of living you had during your marriage, the property you and your spouse own, and how long your marriage lasted.

Keep in mind that a judge will not consider marital misconduct in the decision. Therefore, if your spouse had an affair during your marriage, it will not affect how much temporary support you will receive.

In Illinois, child custody is broken down into two components. The allocation of parental responsibilities refers to how parents divide child-related decision-making responsibilities. Parenting time, formerly called visitation, refers to the time a parent spends directly caring for his or her child. Parents are asked to reach an agreement about parenting time, parental responsibilities, and other parenting concerns and describe the agreement in a parenting plan. However, reaching an agreement about these issues is not always easy – especially when divorcing or unmarried parents disagree about what is best for their child. In some child custody disputes, a guardian ad litem is assigned to the case.

Understanding the Role of a Guardian Ad Litem

In any child-related legal dispute, the child’s best interests are the court’s top priority. When parents disagree on how to allocate parental responsibilities or parenting time, the court may intervene and make a decision on the parents’ behalf. In some child custody disputes, a guardian ad litem (GAL) is assigned to the case. GAL’s are attorneys with special training in family law issues. The GAL is not an attorney representing either parent. Instead, the GAL’s job is to investigate the circumstances of the dispute and use what he or she learns to determine what is in the child’s best interests. The GAL shares his or her findings with the court and makes an official recomendation about the case’s outcome.

What Does a Guardian Ad Litem Do?

If you are a parent, grandparent, or other guardian going through a child custody dispute, you may be shocked to learn that a guardian ad litem has been assigned to your case. You may even feel offended that the court deems a guardian ad litem necessary. Remember, the GAL’s job is to ensure that the court’s decision is as informed as possible. Having a GAL assigned to your case does not mean that you are being accused of anything.